Jesus went for a meal to the house of one of the leading Pharisees and he noticed something. He noticed the way they were picking the places of honour. He noticed their lack of humility!
Humility, and its opposite, pride have to do with an inner attitude to ourselves, others, and God.
Where does this attitude come from? How does it grow within us? What can we do to develop a ‘right’ attitude to ourselves, to others, and to God?
Servais Pinkaers OP, a wonderful moral theologian, says that early on in our history, at the time of our Original Sin, it was as though we suddenly caught a glimpse of ourselves - and a terrible thing happened.
'I love you' became 'I love you to love me.'
Consciousness did a U-turn and became ‘self-consciousness’. Love did a U-turn and became ‘self-love’.
It was the birth of the Ego - in the negative sense of the word - in the destructive sense.
There are two things about the Ego we should notice:
- it has a voracious appetite
- it is a master of disguise
The Ego has a voracious appetite. Everything is fodder for the Ego. It claims everything. It claims our gifts, our achievements, even our holiness. 'Yep, I am much holier than you! - and I did it my way!'
The Ego is also a master of disguise. It is so cunning and so subtle but only at the beginning.
Since Ego wants its own way, and not the way of the other, it has to pretend a lot. It has to pretend it only wants what is for the best. It certainly can’t afford to let others think that it is only feathering its own nest.
It does this because the Ego wants, ultimately, that the whole world, even God, should serve it. The Ego cannot serve, it demands to be served.
Jesus himself said: I have come as one who serves and this is because he only ever did the will of his Father and not his own will.
The first, and most subtle step in the Ego’s insatiable desire to become the ruler of the world is that it has to conquer the individual - me - and you.
My Ego is hard at work trying to conquer me, and your Ego is hard at work trying to conquer you.
It begins by making servants of our hearts and minds and faculties.
- Our ears .. so that we hear only what it wants us to hear.
- Our eyes .. so that we see only what it wants us to see.
- Our minds .. so we think only what it wants us to think.
- Our hearts .. so that the only one we love is ourselves.
And then we will see only the realities that promise to further our desires. Oh, dear, what a calamity!
Jesus was totally humble - he was humility itself. He could see right through every disguise of the Ego, even the most subtle ones. Jesus never needed evidence about anyone - he knew what a man had in him and he noticed how he acted - either according to humility or pride.
- Those who chose the places of honour.
- The widow who put her mite in the temple coffers.
- The tax collector, Matthew, who he called to be an Apostle.
- The woman who anointed his feet at the Pharisees’ house.
Jesus was humble, a true servant. He did only the works his Father gave him to do and he spoke only the words his Father wanted him to speak.
The Church is like that. She speaks only the words she hears Jesus speak.
And we, priests and people, should be like that - speaking only the words we hear the Church speak.
So humble people are lucky people. Jesus says they will be exalted in the kingdom of heaven. But already here on earth they are lucky.
They don’t have to be jealous. They can let others have their gifts. They don’t have to hold grudges. Humble people can forgive easily because they know who they are; they know their sins. And humble people can stop hating themselves and start loving others.